Showing posts with label Circumstances. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Circumstances. Show all posts

Monday, February 20, 2012

The chicken and egg make peace


Egg shell sculpture by Kyle Bean

The whole chicken/egg conundrum can easily drive one to distraction.  A case can be made for either side, but in the end does it really matter?  Is it not more important that both exist?  And frankly, if physicists are correct in their assertions that our concept of time and sequence is inaccurate, then there would be no coming 'first' for either one!

The same sort of cause/effect questions may be found in many aspects of life.  Does success bring us happiness or, in truth, does happiness bring us success?  Psychologists' surveys and research suggest the latter.    

Given that our attitude has such a tremendous impact on our wellbeing, happiness, and enjoyment of any activity in particular, it stands to reason that we can expect to be happy and joyous no matter what our general circumstances.

So then does this mean that we should not do the things we love most?  Not let our light shine in our own unique and essential way?  Not at all.  It simply means that we can be happy and enjoy ourselves whether we are writing the great American novel or doing the dishes; whether we are watching our child take his first step or changing a flat tire; because we can find the beauty and grace in the moment -- and bring some of the loveliest aspects of our character to bear on any situation.

As for the things we love to do most, I have often pondered whether we enjoy the things we excel at because we are good at them, or is it we excel at these activities because we enjoy them..... It is at that point that chickens and eggs begin to dance around the periphery of my thoughts.  

One thing I do know with certainty is that we all have gifts; and these gifts are meant to bless and bring joy to ourselves, those near to us, and those from afar who are benefited by who we are and what we do.  And so it is actually not a bit selfish to give consecrated thought to what we enjoy most, what about our character and talents we enjoy most; and then go after ways to employ those gifts and talents.  For if we cultivate and use the tools in our individual bags of tricks we will find we are so happy and content and productively active that we no longer see an issue of chickens and eggs.... just joy and purpose for all, regardless of their stage of life.



Tuesday, December 13, 2011

My Hero..... me!

"Whether I shall turn out to be the hero of my own life, or whether that station will be held by anybody else, these pages must show." 
So begins chapter 1 of my favorite book, David Copperfield

A friend touched on the idea of our past.... and how tough it can be to deal with since we can't change it.

Ahhhhhhhhh but we CAN!

As discussed before, our past does not define us.
it doesn't mean we can change the zany or awful antidotes or specifics of what has transpired,
but we can change their effects, 

which is even better!

When we grow and evolve we often find ourselves no longer relating to ways of thinking that used to seem to be such a major part of us.
As a result, they are no longer part of our lives... nor are their effects
The statistics of my life show that I was abused;
but I NEVER ever see myself that way nor can I fit into that mindset anymore.
So while that may be something someone can point to on my 'timeline'
it is like telling a story about someone else
because it has no hold on me.
It is no part of me.
It does not own me
and frankly I don't own it.
It is just a story
about the world and life I have experienced.
It is not really fact.

The facts are that I am loved and strong and have felt the rescuing and redeeming touch of grace.

The changing landscapes of events really don't matter that much.
They're just human circumstances -- the test kitchens where we get to work on our character... 
and character is what lasts, not the circumstances.


No doubt, you are incredibly busy this season

but while you're driving
or folding laundry
whenever you have a moment to think
please let me know what you are learning,
what profound gracious truths you are understanding and espousing
how your soul is singing

Do you have any idea how deeply i care about your well-being?


toujours,
Joy